Lost and Delirious(2001)- User Reviews

Don't call it a chick flick. It's too dark to be a chick flick. This is one of the saddest movies I've ever seen. It wasn't sad in a way that made me want to cry (not strong enough cinematic effects), but it was sad in a way that made me hate the way certain people choose to deal with problems. Torry and Paulie were roommates/lovers at a boarding school. Their roommate Mary, a new arrival at the school, was their third-party roommate and the narrator of this film. Torry's parents are very conservative and would not approve of homosexuality. Torry's biggest fear in life is not being socially accepted, whether it's her parents or peers. Paulie, on the other hand, has the right idea. She does not care what other people think and she is not afraid to face the truth. Problems between the two unfold when Torry's sister barges in the dorm and sees Torry and Paulie in bed together. Torry convinces her sister that Paulie is the only one with desires, and Torry is "too nice" to tell Paulie she's not interested. Because of this lie, Torry loses all her friends except Mary. Everybody looks at Torry like she's insane. The last time I checked, love and a strong desire for the truth is not insane. Paulie may be insane on the surface, but Torry's the one with problems. Torry's inability to come out and speak the truth only makes life worse for all parties involved. It drives Paulie to go crazy, but I don't blame her one bit. It's one thing to end the relationship, but it's another to drag down someone's credibility as a human being. It is people like Torry that are actually the crazy ones. She's crazy for not being true to herself and she's crazy for not being true to others. Paulie is the only main character in this story who truly understands love and she is the only one with enough guts to stand up for what's right in the world and stand up for the injustice that is Torry's public life and new relationship with a guy. I'm not condoning every single action of Paulie's. I believe she could've handled her problem much better, but the fact is, she didn't know how to handle it better. She was very sensitive, and why shouldn't she have been? Torry even admitted her love for Paulie and then told her she still couldn't be with her. Her only reason: social acceptance. Torry's idea of social acceptance is not actually social acceptance. A good father would love his child no matter what sexual orientation his child is. Good friends would accept their friends regardless of sexual orientation. That is social acceptance. Paulie understands all of that, but Torry just follows the crowd and acts exactly the way she feels she needs to be in order to get the approval of society. Shame on her! She's the one who's actually suffering because of this. Living a lie is the worst ordeal a person could ever put him/herself through. It is also one of the worst ordeals a person could ever put others through. My one complaint about the movie is I didn't hear enough from Torry at the end. At the end, we still don't know if Torry learned a lesson and felt remorseful. If I had been Torry, I wouldn't have been able to live with myself after what happened in the end. Torry did not deserve to live a good life. She should've felt terrible. I know Mary did, and she had nothing to do with Paulie's demise. Mary was a great friend and a honest one, though she had a lot to learn about true love. Paulie was the only person in this movie to truly understand love. She knew what it meant, and her perspective on love is a perspective that everybody should possess.